How do I log in?
Log in from the Home page and enter your e-mail ID and password into the respective boxes at the top band and click Login button.
I'm already logged in, but I get a message 'You must login prior to using the matrimonial services'. What should I do?
I forgot my User ID/Password. What should I do?
You can retrieve your user ID/Password by clicking on Forgot Password link in home page and enter your E-mail ID. We will send you an e-mail with your 'User ID' and 'Password' immediately. Your E-mail ID should be the one given in your profile.
How do I change my Password?
You can change your Password. Go to Edit Profile -> < Change Password > tab.
Enter Current Password, then New password and Confirm the New Password.
Then Click on Change password button.
How confidential is the user's profile in your system?
Your personal information such as the name, email, contact address and password are kept completely confidential.
Other members can only see your photos and information that you post in your profile.
Explain Registration Process.
Can I register on behalf of a relative or a friend?
But if you have both parents deceased , profiles can be created by guardian such as uncle etc.. That could be considered on a case-by-case basis. Please call us for further detail.
Explain Acceptance criteria of a profile ?
In order to provide good quality services, we review each and every profile before making it available for search in our active database.
Profiles and images found with vulgar or abusive contents are rejected immediately. All such contents will be deleted without notice.
Another reason profile cannot be approved if descriptions in your own words (e.g. Profile Description, Family Background,
Partner Description) contain any type of direct contact information like email id, messenger ID, website URL, phone number, contact address etc.
Profiles created with lack of seriousness will be notified of our concern and given a chance to change the contents.
Explain the acceptance criteria of photographs.
You should provide at least one clear photograph of your face. Low resolution photographs and photographs where your face is not visible are not acceptable.
The photographs should not have any nudity or mature content.
The photographs should not include any information for which you do not own the copyright.
You should not upload multiple copies of the same photograph.
Explain the procedure of modifying already entered data in members profile.
You can change most of the information in your profile. But there are some items such as your date of birth
and gender which can be changed only in exceptional circumstances.
This too can be done only on request to Customer Relations, supported by valid reasoning or necessary evidence.
How do I improve my chance of finding my life partner in your system?
First, Get to Know Yourself
Ask yourself why you want to be in a relationship. Be honest with yourself here. What would be the benefits and the costs of being paired up with someone? Are you okay with the costs and if so, why? What’s important to you in life? Would trying to find a life partner or having a partner challenge that?
Understanding your core needs, values, and hopes is essential. If you don’t know yourself, you can’t really get to know anybody else.
Second, Stop Being So Picky!
I’m not saying anyone should have low standards, but what makes you think you deserve perfection? It is important to practice compassion when getting to know someone and to try to put yourself in their shoes. This may allow you to open up to infinite possibilities.
Nevertheless, I understand there are certain things you just can’t live with or without, so here’s one way to achieve more clarity: Make a list of physical and nonphysical traits (personality, values, goals, etc.) that you hope your special someone will have (or not have). Your list should not be longer than 10 items. Then, from your list, pick just two traits you are not willing to accept (or give up), and focus only on those two when meeting people. Think of all the other traits on your list as bonuses.
Third, Learn from People Who Know You
Ask the people who know you best what they know about you. Ask them to describe you in a few words and take notes! Ask several people, preferably. If you notice certain patterns and descriptions being brought up by different people, those may be the ones you may want to use for this exercise.
I invite you to ask these people to share stories about you that confirm these descriptions (“How did you come to see me as a generous person?” “Can you tell me a story about this?”). Can you think of stories of your own? Do these descriptions fit with how you have been viewing yourself? Whatever your answer, ask yourself how, when, and where you came to learn this about you. Do this exercise a few times until you are comfortable with the information you gathered.
Lastly, Emphasize Complementarity Over Compatibility
One of the biggest mistakes I believe people make is looking for a “compatible” partner. First of all, if you aren’t clear on your own motivations, values, or hopes, you may not truly recognize what compatible is. The key here is to find someone you can create balance with. Think about it: Isn’t it more appealing to think about finding someone who adds to your experience than someone who has the same or similar experience?
Relationships are hard; why should finding a partner to have a fulfilling relationship with be any different?
You may want someone who can offer you something you don’t have, and vice versa. There may be some truth to the notion “opposites attract.” If you hate to cook, for example, wouldn’t it be great if you were in a relationship with someone who finds joy in cooking? Complementarity can be so much more fulfilling than compatibility, especially in the long run.
Now take some of the descriptions about you from step 3 above and identify the opposites of those. Could these be added to your list of requirements for a mate? What do you have that you can contribute to someone else’s life?
The suggestions I’ve presented here are by no means rules, and they may or may not be useful in your particular set of circumstances. They are simply ideas I have learned through my clinical practice, training, and personal experience. My hope is that they provide some new ways of looking at and working around some of the harmful social discourses we all live with.
Relationships are hard; why should finding a partner to have a fulfilling relationship with be any different? Explore. Ask yourself the hard questions. Ask others. Learn and most importantly live your truth. I’m not going to end this by wishing you luck, because it may very well take more than that. Get to work!